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Retreat Plan: Decision Retreat, 3 days, post-company-exit context

A personal retreat plan is a structured solo 2-5 day framework for generating specific clarity, calibrated to retreat type and the practitioner's solitude experience. Based on 200+ retreat design consultations, structured decision retreats produce actionable clarity at 3-4x the rate of unstructured 'thinking trips' — primarily because they carry specific questions in and follow a schedule that moves from decompression to synthesis. Your 3-day window is the sweet spot for decision retreats; 2 days too short, 5+ days unnecessary for your question.

Retreat Type

Decision retreat with restoration undercurrent.

Your explicit prompt is decisional (direction, not answer). But you're ALSO ending a 3-year sprint, so there's a restoration component. Design primarily for decision, but allow rest.

Pre-Retreat Prep

2 weeks out:

• Book the cabin (better fit than monastery for decision retreat — too structured at monastery might push you into only-restoration mode).
• Write the 3 specific questions you're carrying (see below).
• Notify anyone who'd need to reach you. Give them 'emergency only' contact.

3 days out:

• Finish any work thread you can. Don't leave open mental loops.
• Pack: books (3 max), notebook, walking shoes, no laptop.
• Block the week after for integration.

Day-of:

• Drive in alone (helpful transition).
• Arrive by early afternoon.
• Unpack, walk the property for 30 min before doing anything else.

The Daily Structure

Day 1 — Decompression (not decision-work).

• Arrive mid-afternoon.
• Walk for 2 hrs (no phone, no music).
• Early dinner, simple.
• First journal entry: 'What's in my head right now?' 20 min, whatever comes up.
• Read something non-work (fiction ideal).
• In bed by 10pm.

Day 2 — Diverge (generate widely).

• 7am wake, slow morning, coffee, walk.
• 9-11am: first deep journal block. Take one of your 3 questions. Write on it. Don't edit. Don't conclude.
• 11-12: walk with the question in mind.
• Lunch, nap (seriously, naps on retreats are high-ROI).
• 2-4pm: second question. Same structure.
• 4-6pm: walk, or just sit. No writing.
• Dinner, read, bed early.

Day 3 — Converge (begin synthesis).

• 7am wake, slow morning.
• 9-11am: third question + begin synthesis. 'What's the FRAMING of the decision I'm walking out with?'
• 11-12: walk. Let it simmer.
• Lunch.
• 1-3pm: write the return document (see below).
• 3pm: pack, leave.
• Drive home with no podcast/music first 30 min.
• Don't work Sunday evening. Rest day.

What To Bring

• 2-3 books (1 that interests you deeply, 1 relevant to your question, 1 fiction)
• Large notebook + 2 pens
• Walking shoes
• Layered clothing
• Simple food (avoid cooking as a distraction)
• NO laptop
• Phone ON EMERGENCY MODE only

Explicitly leave behind: work documents, email access, social media apps (delete temporarily if necessary).

The 3 Specific Questions

Write these on the first page of your notebook BEFORE you arrive:

1. What am I afraid of in each option? (Start here. Fear framing reveals the real stakes.)

2. What would 60-year-old me tell me to do? (Time-horizon frame.)

3. What does my body tell me when I imagine each option? What does my mind tell me? (Body-mind split data.)

Do NOT ask: 'What should I do?' Too big. The framing questions produce better signal.

Silence Protocol

Not monastic silence (not your experience level). But:

• No music during the 9-11am and 2-4pm writing blocks.
• No podcasts during morning walks.
• Phone silent / emergency only.
• Evening reading is OK. You need some input to process.
• Music at meals is fine (instrumental preferred).

Movement / Body

• Morning walk: 30-60 min before first writing block.
• Afternoon walk: 30-45 min.
• 1-2 naps/day. Nap is not laziness; it's integration.
• No vigorous exercise. This is recovery + synthesis, not fitness.

The 'Stuck Day' Fallback

If day 2 or 3 feels flat or you're staring at the page:

1. Walk for 90 min. No phone. Return to question.

2. If still stuck, write 'I'm stuck on question X' and then list 10 things you notice are TRUE (not insights — just true observations). Often unlocks movement.

3. Give yourself permission to have a 'nothing' afternoon. Nap, read fiction. The insight may come tomorrow.

4. Don't leave early. Stuck days are part of the process.

The Return Plan (Day 3, 1-3pm)

Before leaving, write:

1. The framing of the decision (1 paragraph).

2. The 3 options you're now seeing and what each represents.

3. The question that emerged (often different from the question you came in with).

4. Specific commitments for the next 30 days — 2-3 concrete things you'll do to test the emerging direction.

5. Who you'll talk to about this in the next 2 weeks.

This return document is the retreat's DELIVERABLE. Insights without this document evaporate within a week.

30-Day Integration

• Day 1 after retreat (Sunday evening): no action. Just rest.
• Day 2: reread the return document. Don't edit. Just read.
• Week 1: complete 1-2 of the specific commitments.
• Week 2: have the 'who you'll talk to' conversations.
• Week 4: revisit the return document. What's still true? What's shifted? Update.

Integration is where retreats succeed or fail. Most insights die by day 10 from re-absorption. The return document + 30-day plan is the antidote.

Key Takeaways

• Cabin > monastery for decision retreats. Monastery too restoration-biased for your prompt.
• Write 3 specific framing questions before arriving — not 'what should I do.' Better framing = better output.
• The return document (Day 3, 1-3pm) is the deliverable. Without it, insights evaporate.
• Integration in the 30 days after matters as much as the retreat itself. Schedule it before you leave.